We are not empty nesters nor are we approaching that anytime soon. That does not mean we should not be thinking about it, especially as it relates to our marriage. The story in the Wall Street Journal this morning brought this up again for me with some sad commentary of couples who had grown apart. This tells those of us who are currently raising kids to pay attention to our marriages now because we want to know our spouse when it is just the two of us again. (story) The article said that in “1990, fewer than 1 in 10 individuals who divorced were 50 or older. Almost 20 years later, that number jumped to more than 1 in 4. In 2009, more than 600,000 people ages 50 and over got divorced.” That is alarming!
So, what do we do? I know how hard it can be for parents of young children to get out and have a date night. We have a very tight budget, so we don’t have money to go out or hire a sitter. What my wife and I do is have a date night. That is a night when we put the kids to bed and do something together at home. We might watch a movie or show of some sort. We maybe will play a game or have a conversation. The point is not to spend a lot of money; the point is to spend time together. The goal is to date each other in the one way we really can right now.
My hope is that our kids will grow up and we will know each other better than we do now making those years that much more enjoyable for us. I believe it is possible and worth fighting for.