Ravi Zacharias has said, “With no fact as a referent, what is normative is purely a matter of preference.” In other words, if we don’t have some sort of truth as a foundation for what we refer to, then we just fall back on what we prefer. It is like what was recently portrayed in the Lorax movie with the Oncler declaring “How bad could I possibly be? I am just doing what comes naturally.” Doing what comes ‘naturally’ and doing what is right are often two very different things. Man inherently wants to rebel against God because of our inherent sin nature. Ephesians 2 says that we were born as “objects of wrath” because of that sin nature.
Even with an understanding of our sin nature and what God says about it, I still read things in the newspaper that make me throw up my hands in disbelief. One of these moments was this morning as I read an article in the Wall Street Journal. (read here) The article was about how some people in Japan are opting to stay with a particular type of phone, even as antiquated as they are, because they are able to hide their unfaithfulness. These phones have been called ‘infidelity phones.’
This is nothing new and I understand that. What got me was the brazen nature of the people interviewed. These guys have multiple women they are cheating on and there is not one hint of concern with how horrible that concept is. All they were worried about was being able to maintain their cheating! One man said about his concern, “Women may want to check my phone for strange emails or calls when I’m not around.” This is only a problem if you have something to hide and he had a handful of women to keep apart. An executive with a company in Japan said this, “If Tiger Woods had this Japanese feature in his phone, he wouldn’t have gotten in trouble.” How arrogant and selfish a statement is that?
No, maybe he wouldn’t have gotten caught, but I assure you that he was in plenty of trouble. The heart of the sinner will attempt to do whatever it wants, whenever it wants, with the illusion that there is absolutely no cost for sin. That is absolutely false. Sure you might be able to hide your cheating heart for a while, but as the old country song once said, “your cheating heart will tell on you.”
It is the same thing Moses told the people in Numbers 23 as a warning to follow the instructions.
“But if you fail to do this, you will be sinning against the LORD; and you may be sure that your sin will find you out.” – Numbers 32:23
Do you hear his concern? They are sinning against the LORD and the LORD will notice. In the New Testament we see how all of this deception is not freeing at all, but rather bondage producing. Having to live multiple lives must be exhausting and stressful. Why put yourself through that? Honesty is not a some old-school concept, but it is still relevant today.
“Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” – John 8:32
We need truth at every level. What we need is people who are more transparent, not with more secrets. I know people like their privacy, but privacy can be dangerous. We need each other to help us walk the path of righteousness. We need to be faithful to our God and to each other, especially our spouse. The trend of using technology to hide your cheating heart is troubling and eroding at the bedrock of the family. Integrity matters! Let’s live it, men and women. Our children are watching.