Kids have a way of being brutally honest. They have an innocence about them that makes them just be who they are no matter what. Even so, adults can learn to just be who they are by following the lead of their young children. It is not until the kids start getting older that the pressure to conform becomes even more real to them. We all just need to be honest and not let other people dictate what you do and don’t do. You see, honesty is about more than simply speaking the truth. Honesty is about being who you are and standing for the things you believe in.
What does it mean to be completely honest? No, not just with the things that come out of your mouth, but completely. As in, your life and who you claim to be, matches up to who you actually are. In other words, who you are in secret, or with your friends, actually matches with who you claim to be and, more importantly, who you really are in Christ.
It all comes down to an understanding of our identity and being completely honest with who we are in Christ.
How you Spend Time
Wine is a mocker and beer a brawler;
whoever is led astray by them is not wise. – Proverbs 20:1
In the United States alcohol is not illegal, provided you are old enough. This is not a verse that prohibits drinking all together, but does deal with drunkenness..
Why? Being drunk makes people lose control and often makes them do things that they will regret later on. In this way, as it says here, alcohol leads people astray.
This is dangerous no matter what, but is especially destructive when teenagers engage in this activity. The biggest killer drug for teenagers is alcohol. The reason is in the moment of peer pressure, alcohol is consumed, people get drunk and do something that hurts them. I know that people in high school think they are being adult and having a little social get together to show their independence. The truth is that most of the parties that happen are to get drunk, not to just hang out. It is dangerous and not a godly choice.
To be honest with who you really are as a believer would mean that you will stay away from ungodliness. It doesn’t mean you are rude to your friends, but you say “No, that is not me. I still like you, but I am not going to do that activity with you.” It is ok to do that and it is something that more people need to do.
When it comes to how you spend time, the party scene is not the only concern.
A sluggard does not plow in season;
so at harvest time he looks but finds nothing.- Proverbs 20:4
That one can hurt because it deals with procrastination, which can get someone into trouble. In this case, the person procrastinates so long that there is nothing to harvest come harvest time. This can be the case with projects at work or school work. I know I have had to be very intentional over the last few years at getting my school work done. It is easy to find things to do instead, but there comes a time when those things need to be done.
A lot of time is wasted on things like Facebook and texting, but there is work that you need to do. If you waste time, you don’t get things done and your work and relationships stuffer as a result. So, it is important, as one who wants to follow God, to use time wisely. That means you are not putting everything off until the last minute.
Honesty in how you spend your time is an important part of being completely honest, but it is not all of it.
How you treat others
It is to a man’s honor to avoid strife,
but every fool is quick to quarrel. – Proverbs 20:3
People who are quick to fight and pick a fight are not treating others with the love God would have them. Do you pick fights?
There is also the issue of self-righteousness or comparing yourself with someone else.
Who can say, “I have kept my heart pure;
I am clean and without sin”? Proverbs 20:9
A good question, but helpful because it keeps us from comparing ourselves to each other. Honesty says we are all sinful people who have been saved by Jesus Christ. Being honest with who you are in Christ will affect how you treat others. It also continues with a common scripture theme, gossip.
A gossip betrays a confidence;
so avoid a man who talks too much. – Proverbs 20:19
Avoid a man who talks too much. Gossip comes up a lot because it is easily done. Chattering about other people is a dangerous game to play and betrays people and hurts them. That is not what God calls us to in love.
My children will run around the yard imagining they are all sorts of things. They don’t care in the least bit if someone is watching. In fact, one time there was a group of young people walking past the house while they were playing. The people walking by actually made fun of my kids as they played. I thought it was petty and immature, but my children were just happy they said something. When there is confidence in who you are, it doesn’t make any difference what someone says. This confidence frees a person to not worry about who is around and to feel free to say no to something they are not ok with. There is just too many outside pressures trying to change people. Just be who you are and be honest with who you are. No one else needs to tell you who you are.