It involves a change of attitude, which comes from small, intentional steps. That is what I keep telling myself with the attitude toward some people in the church toward children. I have been in churches where they actually said “let’s get the kids out of here so it is quiet” Sometimes the church brags about having children’s church for the kids, but it really is for the adults. In my own ministry, I have fought the notion of “keep the cookies in the basement” and “children should be busy during worship so they are not bored.” That drives me crazy because if you give a kid a cookie, he will ask for a glass of milk, sure, but just let them eat it wherever he wants and if you are encountering God in worship, kids will not be bored. We must go beyond children’s church! I often talk with the kids during the sermon or intentionally share something that will connect with them as well. But then again all of that only comes because I take time to be with the kids relationally. More adults need to do this. Talk with kids. Have a snowball fight, go fishing, throw a football around — whatever it takes. Show interest in them and remember their names. It makes what you say much more meaningful to them.
One of the big shifts has been creating a small group that is for families. What I mean is not that we have kids there and they do some sort of craft on their own away from the adults, but we have the kids and adults together the entire time. We play games together, eat a snack, pray together, and talk about what God is doing in our lives. This past time we spent time making notes for the shut-ins in our church and have ministered to them through that. The group teaching is geared at the kids, but the adults find the time to be encouraging for them also. Their kids are talking about God’s Word together! Is this not what the Church is supposed to be?
Perhaps one of the most telling events was our baptism service. We used a water tank for cattle and set it all up outside. This tank was a nice looking pool. That day was a hot day so keeping the kids out of it was very difficult. But after we were done with the baptism, the kids went in, some of them in their clothes. We maintained the respect for what baptism is and made sure we exalted God in it. But once that was over with, it was time to get wet. This is just another piece, I feel, that makes what we are about as the Church authentic and inviting for kids. This is important because if it isn’t authentic and inviting for kids, they will most certainly check out. But if we can get them to understand that the Church is them, now, then perhaps they will grow to be an active part of it.
So, I wonder — are there specific ways your church has tried to connect with children beyond children’s church?
I have not done a Lego Jar post in a while simply because my time has been limited. The who idea of the Lego Jar was to design a post that gave me a chance to write about all the various random events that take place. There has been no shortage of random around here, I assure you. I thought I would share a few pieces of the summer, mainly the fishing that we did. The problem is that I did not catch too many fish when I went with the kids this year. I wonder why?
The summer season has wrapped up, school has started, and the nightly battle for homework has begun. Don’t you just love the fall? Thankfully with the fall weather comes even more time for fishing, since I am trying to get my fishing day count up. I feel like I am making up for the years on Cape Cod that I didn’t get to fish too much. Yes, there was water on the Cape, but I had younger children. Taking younger kids fishing is as fun as tying knots all day long because that is what you do. Take a kid fishing and you will know what I mean. For an extra amount of fun, take a couple of kids fishing in a canoe! Thankfully we have done that this year many times and have had pretty good success with it.
Our most recent trip was on a canoe trail that took us onto the Mississippi River and then back. After my boys got over the fact that there were big boats out there, they enjoyed the time. There were a few fish and very little complaining. Usually no fish means a lot of complaining. My kids are growing up!
The thing about fishing with kids is that they want to keep every fish that you catch. In their mind every fish is a keeper. Now that I think about it, I do have a Northern Pike head in my freezer yet. That was not to be eaten, but to be shown around as proof that we actually catch more fish than the little ones.
This is the time of year when apples are starting to be more available. We were able to press some cider recently. The problem we ran into was that there were two bulls in the field that we did not know were there. All of a sudden there they were. It was a dramatic time for my 7 year old son who screamed “I’m too young to die” Needless to say, they don’t want to go pick apples in the pasture anymore.
Some people have asked me how the kids have done with the transition. I would say after a full summer of fun and a new school year that is underway, they have adjusted well. I was at a cafe for breakfast with the two older boys and they said to me “dad, I feel like I know everyone in this town.” I wonder how many people they will know after we have been here an entire year. Such is life in a small town.
As I wrap this up, I have been asked twice if we can go fishing today. Is that not what it is all about anyway? Each season has its own unique rhythm to it, but all of the seasons have fishing attached to them. Time to get on with it. After all, the only way you catch fish is by fishing.
It has been over 6 months since we left the familiar life we had on Cape Cod for a totally new way of life in Southwestern Wisconsin. Let me tell you , it has been a journey. We have found this community to be a huge blessing to us and our kids. We have also had opportunities to meet kids and families in the community that has only proven to make our transition smoother. My kids have developed a working knowledge of crops. “Hey dad, that looks like corn!” or “I think that is soybeans” have become common conversation. When we arrived here they thought that milk was only something that came from the milk store. Now they know what a cow is and will point all of them out when we drive.
This part of Wisconsin is quite scenic and not as flat as most people think. The sunsets are something to enjoy every night and the culture is just more laid back than we had grown accustomed to on Cape Cod. This has made our summer more enjoyable.
I have been able to fish more than I ever did on Cape Cod and we have actually gone to the beach more also. (ironically) The main reason is that it is much easier to get around.
On the flip side, my kids were not used to severe weather. Tornadoes had become such an obsession for my 7-year-old son that he has checked out every book on tornadoes from the library. I showed him slides from my storm spotting class and he has increased his understanding of things like wall clouds and shelf clouds, among other things. This has been fun to see him develop. That all changed a few weeks back when at 10 pm we were hustling our kids from their beds to the basement as a tornado quickly formed just outside of town. Once the kids stopped crying they decided we needed to move somewhere else. Our tornado chaser in training exclaimed “this is the worst day of my life.” Of course I told him “you are young” We only lost the tree in front of our house, but out of town they had true tornado damage.
We are enjoying summer as much as we can because we know that everyday is one day closer to winter. We went canoeing, went to Lambeau Field for a Packer Clinic for the kids, and played some little league.
But God has been so gracious to us and this is very simply my testimony to that. I know God has plans for our family here as we continue to walk forward and I look forward to seeing how it all plays out. In the mean time we are going to enjoy every day because each day is a gift. Make the most of it!
It seems there are impossible circumstances and people all around us. In ministry I find the challenge is to balance out ways to help someone and be realistic about the results. It is those times when our faith is increased because it is something only God is able to do.
There is a story in Numbers 11 about Moses and Israelites. Naturally they are being an impossible group of people to lead because they are taking the blessings of God (freedom from slavery, daily food to eat) and complaining that they are not good enough. Really? Do you guys even remember what slavery was like?
But it was an impossible scene and God was not pleased with the people. Moses heard the complaining and he also grew increasingly angry. God decides he is going to give them meat to eat for a whole month and, as He tells them, “the LORD will give you meat, and you will eat it.” (I would add “and you will like it”) Moses, as the rational leader that he is, wonders how God is going to provide so much food for so many people for so much time. God answers Moses with such graciousness.
“The Lord answered Moses, “Is the Lord’s arm too short? You will now see whether or not what I say will come true for you.” – Numbers 11:23
It seems every day is a new day to question how God is going to take care of a situation. These are opportunities for Him to get the glory and for us to stand back and praise Him. I know of lives that are in complete shambles, but we are seeing God’s work in lives in the smallest, yet most profound ways. I have seen situations where our own family has been wondering how we would pay a bill and God has reminded us that His arm is not too short.
The arm of God is not too short. It is so wide and powerful that He knows every part of the vast Universe . His arm is wide enough to climb the tallest mountain, leap over the oceans, and yet still find each hurting heart right where they are at. God’s arm proved to be just the right length too as Jesus Christ, fully God and fully man, spread His arms on the cross to do the impossible. He took sinful man and God back together again!
May you be encouraged today in whatever you face. God’s arm is not too short for whatever you face today.
Despite the inherent right that we have to remain silent, we sure don’t exercise it very often. The need to talk or at the very least fill the silence with something is overwhelming for most people. There is a young man who drives around the streets of town with some sort of speaker system in his car commenting on what he sees as he drives around. It is only funny the first time. This need to fill the quiet is something I wrestle with as I allow for a moment of silence at the end of a sermon so that people might be able to respond to what God is saying to them. There are people who want more and there are people who just cannot bear the dead air. And to be fair, I live in a house with 4 children (3 boys) so there isn’t a whole lot of silence in my home. If there is we probably want to figure out what is going on.
Even before God it is hard to be silent despite the fact that we can all recite the verse “be still and know that I am God.” We wonder if being still is something that actually involves moving and talking. Maybe “still” is a word that when we go back to the original language actually means “be boisterous.” Or perhaps being still is something we do while we sleep?
Silence is an appropriate, often overlooked, response to God’s Holiness. Silence helps us take time to listen to what God might be saying to us. Silence puts our heart in a posture to revere God in ways that we can’t when we are rattling off a list of prayer requests or lamenting about something in our lives.
I was reading Leviticus 10 the other day and was completely blown away by the phrase at the end of verse 3. “Aaron remained silent.” What was that in response to?
Aaron’s sons were doing what boys do- playing with fire. Except this wasn’t just any fire, it was fire that was to be used for God’s purposes. It was holy and needed to be looked at that way. The boys were playing with fire and they should have known better. The text says that they offered unauthorized fire, which of course means that there was time and place for this fire. They did not follow the rules and fire came out and consumed them. I guess their dad never mentioned that if you play with fire you will get burned. But here is what Moses said to Aaron:
“This is what the LORD spoke of when he said: ‘Among those who approach me I will show myself holy; in the sight of all the people I will be honored.” – Leviticus 10:3
Do you see what was at issue here? It was not about the fire; it was about the holiness of God. We can approach God so flippantly, but He is to be revered and honored as Holy. And so Aaron’s response, to me, was the more genuine response he could have had. Most people would wail at God for that, but Aaron was just silent! I mean, what could he say?
Do you need to spend some time in silence before God? I would encourage you to do that because I know there is real refreshment in that time. Are you experiencing heartache or struggle? Be silent before God and worship Him. There is fresh perspective gained as God is honored in our lives. It is time to exercise your right to remain silent.